Training to summit Mount Everest is one of the toughest things I have ever done both mentally and physically. This is been on my bucket list for a long while and when my trip in 2020 didn't happen due to covid I was obviously disappointed!
Everything in life is no problem! I continued my training, stayed positive and now look where I'm at! In a much better place than I was two years ago to attempt to get to the top of the world. With just a few months to go, I am SO excited to be climbing this year and so grateful that I get to share my journey with you.
While focusing on keeping a positive mindset, I have realized that we all have our own "Everest". Whether you are trying to lose 10 lbs, going for a promotion at work, or even building your team to grow your business, no matter what your focus and goals are, we all have an Everest!
Want to see what I am doing for my training?! Check out this video below.
So often we hear we need to follow our dreams and set our sights high. Yet, when we get to setting a goal, sometimes we shy away from the things we should really be aiming for…
Think about it like this: Let’s say your long term goal is to own a house. So you save money and work just hard enough to buy a house that’s within reach. Now, let’s say your long term goal is to own a 3,000 square foot house in a gated community in Newport Beach, California.
With this goal in mind you’re probably going to work a little harder, right? You will probably have to innovate and get creative to achieve that goal. And the best part is, even if you aim for that and end up buying a 2,300 square foot house in a gated community in a little less expensive area you are still achieving more than you would’ve if you hadn’t aimed high and gotten specific!
Now that you understand what I mean, let’s look at 3 questions to ask yourself to tell if your long term goals are big enough:
- Does it almost seem unattainable? You will know your goal is big enough if it feels uncomfortable and unattainable. Your long term goals should push you outside your comfort zone and make you really reach so you can level up!
- How long will it take to accomplish? A good long term goal will take time. There will be lots of trial and error and room for innovation. If you can achieve your big dream in a year, I encourage you to reach even higher!
- Is it specific? Get specific with your big goal! Let yourself really dream about that thing you want because the bigger and most specific it is, the harder you’re going to work to achieve it! If it’s not specific, it’s not big enough!
A set back, is a set up for a come back!
Failures are a part of life and they are going to happen. That is how we learn and grow! It's not so much about the setback but its your reaction and what you do afterwards that will determine your success. If there's something happening in your life right now DO NOT WORRY!
Here's my top 7 tips to overcoming setbacks to get your life back on track and focus on your goals.
We've got to eliminate blame. When you put the blame on someone else, you don't take 100% responsibility for what you've done. Without fully accepting responsibility, you can't move forward from it. Eliminate that blame because it has nothing to do with anyone else. It's all part of the process.
It's not a setback it's a LEARNING experience. You want to take value from it. Don't worry about how frustrating setbacks-its all part of the journey. You hit a wall-you fall down. You hit another wall - you wobble. You hit another wall - you flinch. Until finally you hit a wall and it doesn't even effect you. Don't think about it as” it's disappointing” or “I'm going backwards” it's actually okay, it's a great learning experience! The more mistakes that you make the more you're going to learn and the more are going to grow.
Setbacks are actually there to build up your strength for bigger things that are going to come! Use it as motivation! If something derails you and makes you feel like you can't do it - use it as motivation and the driving force to keep pushing you to move on to bigger and better things.
You need to grow and become the a better version of yourself before you can take the next step. Sometimes life will let you know that you might not be ready for this next step by testing you with a setback. This setback isn't telling you that you wont be able to over come it, it's just letting you know that you're not ready— but to keep on working for it. When the time is right and you're ready to more forward, you will fly through the situation without any problems.
Always turn it into a positive! Be solution oriented rather than problem oriented. Whenever something happens, just be the fastest person to solve the problem rather than complaining about the situation- turn it into a positive! Always, ALWAYS, turn it into a positive!
What can you change to be more successful? Rather than thinking “it's never going to happen” and other negative thoughts, just reflect and think, "how do I need to grow in order to make this next step successful or get through this setback?" Its not a setback -it's just a stepping stone!
- A setback is just the universe testing you to see how much you really want it. If you really want it, you're never going to quite you're just going to keep on going.
What's holding you back?
Do you feel like you’re doing all the things: reading all the books, listening to all the podcasts, following all the pages but you’re not seeing results? Here are some crucial things that could be holding you back...
1. You need a mentor
Every successful person has a mentor. Period. End of subject. You need someone who is going to elevate you, who has been through what you’re going through, helps you stay on track and motivates you. I have invested LOADS of money in mentors and I wouldn’t be where I am today without it.
2. You must have a community
If you try to make the journey of leveling up and searching for your more, no matter what it is, by yourself you won’t be successful. You have to have people there who understand what you’re going through because they’re in the thick of it with you. You need supporters who will cheer for you and also encourage you to keep going.
3. You are getting down on yourself
The journey to leveling up is not linear. You are going to have set backs and things are going to be challenging at times. You won’t always handle everything perfect so you must learn from your mistakes. This being said, getting down on yourself isn’t going to get you anywhere. You must have grace.
4. You can't do all the things at once
So often we listen to mentors, speakers, or people who are where we want to go and we see all the things they’re doing - habits, routines, business ventures, etc. and we feel we need to do all them too. Yet, if you’re starting out you have to understand you can’t do everything at once. Patience is KEY! Start with one thing, master that until it becomes routine. Then, move onto the next thing.
5. You need effective goal setting strategies
Often we either set huge goals and don’t have action plans or we set a bunch of small goals with no direction. You must learn to set effective goals that are measurable and logical. In order to do this, you must understand the BEST strategies.
If your goals don't scare you, they aren't big enough!!! I challenge you over the next few months to figure out " What Is Your Everest?". Work towards that goal every day and you will be shocked at how much progress you make over the next 6 months!
To learn more about my Everest Journey, check out my recent blog post about my weight gain and how I have been feeling the last couple weeks here!
Let me know in the comments what your goals are and what is YOUR EVEREST!
AfisherMarch 03, 2022
Great blog post! “What is your Everest…?” It has me thinking!, thank you!