Sometimes we can get stuck in the same pattern of dealing with people - do you find yourself complaining about, worrying about, or fussing over someone all too often? Do your peers inspire and challenge you to be a better person? Thinking about how we communicate can help build better relationships with everyone around us!
When was the last time you said thank you, not just for some little thing, but in a larger sense of appreciation? Let people know you genuinely care about your relationship with them by expressing gratitude. When you do this more often, you'll probably realize that you receive the same kind of acknowledgement.
Rather than getting worked up into a frenzy, take a few minutes (or longer, depending on the severity of the situation) to think about an appropriate reaction. If you're getting caught up in trying to teach a lesson, attempting to convince someone that you're right and/or they're wrong, punishing someone for a mistake, or trying to make a person see your perspective by making them feel inferior, you should take a few deep breaths and consider that not everyone is on the same level of communication. Try to understand before trying to be understood. If a person acts defensively to what you say, it may be because of the way you're saying something; it could also be because of this person's own struggles to communicate effectively, in which case you can learn how to best approach subjects without inciting struggle by practicing patience.
Ok, so it's pretty frustrating when someone tells you to "calm down" - so you need to say this to yourself! The best route is to think about how to say something without negativity or overexertion because you ultimately hurt yourself by doing so. Have you ever had a verbal struggle with someone that seemed to last forever and you feel like you're just repeating yourself over and over, or vice versa? This practice goes both ways, and it's because something wasn't thought out carefully enough. As soon as someone lets you know that they get what you're saying, it's time to move on, and the same goes for you! Don't exhaust yourself or overstress about things that can be handled in a simple way. Don't sweat the small things.
When thinking about that last point: we should all examine our relationships regularly to make sure we're not held back by someone else's negativity or lack of caring! It's best to try and get along with everyone, offer help when you can, practice patience, and support others' goals. A constant struggle or ongoing loop of frustration and resentment isn't helpful for anyone, so if someone is coming to mind right now, it's probably time to take a step back and think about how you're being impacted by these interactions. Stress is harmful to your health - if someone cares about you, they'll understand that a harmonious relationship is necessary for your wellbeing! Otherwise, you have a choice: keep struggling to strike a balance or ditch the downers. You can't change other people, but you can change your attitude and reactions!
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